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Too Broken To Be Loved

Dear Gina,

My mom is your mom right now.... Help me help her… What do you do when your mother decides she's useless and ready to die?

The weight of her worries are visible on her face and in her Aura.

I can feel her heavy energy, like a weight of bricks when communicating with her. She holds the grief of failing me because I chose a modern, free-spirited lifestyle... she won't let go of her need to protect and allow me to be me. She needs to heal… let go of her painful misconceptions, forgive herself and just be happy.

But how can I assist her to get there? 

-Lona

Dear Lona,

Show her how to accept that we are all seeds planted in life, who must find our own way to fight the weeds and survive.

A new hobby will take up space… give her idle mind a bit of success and make her days happier…

Ask her, What excites her, then help her to learn more about it.

But

Respect the fact that she has the choice to give up on life.  

And In these last days, remind her what you love about her and how her journey has shaped you into the person you are. Allow her to feel your love, without judgement of her choices.

Have that conversation even if it’s in silence, while you’re holding her hand or brushing her hair.

I know how difficult it is to feel her pain, but there’s a lesson in this season, that’s here to teach you resilience and give you the power to break the chain for yourself.

I saw my dad slowly give up and ultimately reject life. It hurt me tremendously and lead me to stay away from him, until he needed me dearly, I had to find the courage to stand up to this fear. Put my desires on hold and just spend more time holistically caring for him until he transitioned.

Spending his last days with him helped me gain clarity about how to fight the good fight of faith.

Gina .♥️🙏