The degree to which you love yourself will determine your ability to love the other person, who will be reflecting back to you many of your own personality traits and qualities.
Sanaya Roman
As you age, your mindset changes, especially in light of how you process circumstances while maintaining love. Some pretend to love themselves while others are blunt. Your self care toolbox must contain compassion if unshakable inner peace, tranquility, and steadiness is on your radar.
Compassion is the act of noticing suffering: in self, others and animals
To feel compassion, we rely on the ability to understand and share the feelings of another.
How many companions in your life seem to possess this quiet calm?
They are not ruffled by life’s challenges. They face obstacles with peace and poise.
Holistic Power
The ability to have the inner spiritual strength required to achieve serenity and well-being. Nourish yourself in a way that helps you blossom in the direction you want to go you are worth the effort.
The Secret ?
Invest in happiness, serenity and strength, each day…
First: Self-compassion
Cultivate your soothing inner voice, and be as thoughtful, nurturing, and generous with yourself as you would be with a friend or a small child. When we practice self-compassion, we extend the same tolerance and kindness to ourselves as we do to others, with unconditional love.
Second: Self-care
Respect and honor yourselves by nurturing your spirit, tenderizing the soul and nourishing your bodies. Perform your wellness requirements, exercise, indulge in a massage or pedicure and know that you’re worthy of occasional small rewards.
Third: Solitude
Enjoy moments of quiet. This is time to reflect on gratitude. Strengthen your safe refuge. The ultimate moment of solitude is inner strength to create a safe haven, wherever they are, whenever they need it.
When you are compassionate with yourself, you trust in your soul, which you let guide your life. Your soul knows the geography of your destiny better than you do.”
John O’Donohue
Fourth: Autonomy
Knowing that you can express yourself, your beliefs, preferences and opinions, without fear of reprisal, punishment, discrimination, or judgment. Can you talk openly about subjects or feelings without fear of being belittled? Knowing that each time we condemn, we diminish someone’s autonmy.
Fifth: Satisfaction
This one is the closest to Maslow’s “self-actualization” definition. I think we all crave the internal reward that we feel from doing good works that we are proud of. I don’t mean “proud” in the prideful sense that jumps to mind first. What I mean is, we need to feel good about the things we spend our time doing; our deeds must be satisfying to us. We need to feel that the things we do are worthy, that we’re using the gifts we have been given well, and that we’re good people who perform good acts. Not in a boastful way. Just in a quiet, contented way. I have to find a better word for this. Suggestions are welcome!
Sixth: Socialization
When you interact with others you learn more about yourself, you grow, you become more informed and insightful about the world around us. Socialization allows us to practice: empathy, compassion, tolerance, and sometimes, patience. You need a dose of quality interaction with kindred spirits to feel whole.
Seventh: Spirituality
I believe this is another elusive one that to a certain degree, defies description. For some, it’s clear. It’s a need that’s met through their faith in a Supreme Being or participation in a organized religion. For others, it’s not so defined.
“Our bodies are our garden to which our wills are gardeners.”
William Shakespeare
Those who practice holistic power:
Are more likely to be healthy, live a long life, and have enhanced immune responses.
Often are more likely to be happy, optimistic, curious, agreeable and conscientious. It also means you are more likely to take initiative.
Have more positive thoughts in the present moment. Positive thoughts have been proven to lead to positive outcomes, both for you and those around you.
Experience a heightened state that increases endorphin and serotonin production. Both promote an overall feeling of well-being.
Have a natural influence on those around them, prompting them to be kinder to themselves and to others.
Are less likely to judge themselves; as this happens, they are less likely to judge others.
Rely less on others to validate our own self-worth.
Forgive themselves for past mistakes; as they forgive themselves, they also find it easier to forgive others.
Are slower to exhibit anxiety, anger, and aggression.
Are more likely to view life events as stepping-stones to opportunity – and recover more quickly from setbacks.
“It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.”
Wayne Dyer
Growing Holistic Power
Is about reigning your presence from principles of deep inner sovereignty to masterfully bring your missions to fruition, regardless of tough circumstance. It’s also about knowing how to process emotions, what healthy relationships look like, how to hold personal boundaries, and countless other compassionate habits and behaviors.
Bring a culture of conscious awareness inside. We can only give others what we have practiced giving ourselves.